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Honesty Is Not the Best Policy
Honesty Is Not the Best Policy from Jesus Speaking: On Embodying Christ Consciousness
Honesty is important. Without honesty, a society cannot thrive and be free. The facts are important, and being honest about the facts is necessary for a healthy and free society. Lying is being dishonest about the facts, about the truth. But what I want to talk about today is a different kind of honesty: being honest about what you think.
If what you think is what your ego or the voice in your head thinks, and most of it is, and if most of that is lies or half-truths, which it is, then being honest about what you think is worse than useless. It’s just giving voice to the conditioning and half-truths running through your mind: the judgments, assumptions, opinions, subjective beliefs, and stories that make up the ego and false self. Being honest about what your ego or false self believes only reinforces the ego, the false self, and the illusion, within yourself and within others. Being honest about lies is just more lies.
But it’s worse than that, because these lies hurt yourself and others. Lies hurt, because they aren’t meant to feel good. The truth feels good, but lies don’t. When the ego expresses its judgments, opinions, beliefs, and stories, they often hurt others. They are often unkind. But they are also unkind to yourself. They make you feel small, and they contract you energetically. It’s important to notice this. Egos hurt, and it hurts to be an ego.
People believe in being honest, so they often feel they should be honest with others about what they think. But telling your friend, for instance, that you don’t like her latest haircut (or her husband, for that matter) is not the kind of honesty that makes relationships and societies strong, and that is the test of it. If being honest isn’t loving and doesn’t empower others and leave them feeling relaxed and at peace, then that is not honesty but the ego doing what it does. What you think is not the ultimate truth, and more often than not, it is a judgment and not useful to share.
True honesty—honesty about facts, about the truth—is not unkind. How can facts be unkind? They aren’t personal. Only the ego’s honesty is unkind. So that is the rule of thumb: If being honest will be hurtful, then don’t be honest. Be kind instead, and everyone will feel good, including you.
Before telling someone what you think, examine your motives. Are you doing it for them or to them—to manipulate or hurt them, or play at being superior to them? And remember: Even if your intention is to offer useful advice, if that advice wasn’t asked for, it will likely be construed as criticism and won’t be helpful after all.
Most conversations are about what people think, about what the voice in their head thinks, not about facts, not about sharing information. They are about people’s likes and dislikes, opinions, desires, fears, judgments, assumptions about others, and stories about what happened (usually with a certain spin). In most conversations, the ego is expressing its view of the world. It puts its interior world on display for all to see.
You can learn a lot about your ego this way, by observing what it shares with others. This might be the only value in these types of conversations. At best, these conversations grease the wheels of social engagement, but if these are the only types of conversations you have, they will leave you feeling empty. What egos talk about is just not that interesting, unless you like drama, gossip, and stirring up emotions, which the ego does like.
Real conversations can’t be had between egos, who are more interested in what they, themselves, have to say than in what others have to say. Egos enjoy debating with other egos, but usually for the purpose of winning them over to their side, not so much to seek new information.
Egos are just not that interested in learning and growing. For this, the conversation has to drop out of the level of ego, out of “I think” or “I believe,” to a deeper, truer level of “I don’t know.” The mind that thinks it knows is a closed mind, while the mind that admits it doesn’t know is still open to new information. Notice how much the ego pretends to know, how attached it is to what it pretends to know, and how unwilling it is to admit it doesn’t know. So much more is unknown than known, and it is wise to be honest about that.
People who are willing to be open-minded stand a real chance of communicating, learning, and growing, but that requires that they drop out of their egos and into their Hearts, where love and the truth can be explored and discovered together.
When I say “drop into the Heart,” I don’t mean drop into your feelings, since feelings belong to the false self. I’m talking about the spiritual Heart, which is your connection to your innate wisdom, your true knowing, your intuition. When you are in your Heart, then it is truly possible to say something that is meaningful in that moment and also true in the deepest sense of the word.
When the Heart has something to say, it lets you know through an urge to speak. This sense that something wants to be said through you, while not being sure what that is, is the Heart. Then, when the Heart is ready to speak, the words come forward, and you are as surprised as anyone, because you didn’t know what you were going to say. The words just came out of your mouth. Words that come from the Heart make everyone relax, and that’s when you know you’ve spoken the truth.
Contrast that with the ego. When the ego is speaking, you also feel a push to talk, but it’s because the ego wants to talk about itself, wants attention, or wants to demonstrate that it knows something. Thoughts about what you want to say swirl around in your head, while you impatiently wait for an opportunity to speak. Then, when you do speak, you experience a tightness in your body and a self-consciousness or preoccupation with yourself, all of which signal that your ego is online. When you’ve finished speaking, there is no sense of “Ahh,” but a sense of needing more: needing approval for what you just said, needing more attention, needing to be special.
It doesn’t feel good to need. There is no peace in needing. Needing makes you feel small and contracted, not relaxed and at ease. It turns out that attempts at getting something for yourself out of a conversation only backfire, leaving you wanting more of something you can never get enough of. The ego is a bottomless pit that can never be filled.
As I have often said, contraction is a sign of ego-identification, while relaxation is a sign of being aligned with the divine self, with Truth. Lies and needs and desires and fears and preferences never leave you feeling relaxed and complete, while the truth does, whether that is a relative truth or the Truth with a capital “T.” You know when you have heard the truth because your body relaxes and feels at ease. When you hear the truth, you feel either an “Ahhh” or an “Ah-ha!”
Your body is a wonderful instrument for guiding your conversations. Even just thinking of giving voice to your ego will cause you to contract energetically. On the other hand, giving voice to the truth or something that wants to be said through you makes you feel elated and, at the same time, at peace.
These are two very different states, so they are not that difficult to distinguish, but you have to want to pay attention to your state and you have to want to stay true to the truth more than you want to follow your default. That is not so easy, since your ego really wants to do what it has always done. It wants to create drama and trouble, stir up emotions, be right, be special, and get attention.
The way around this is to, first, notice what your ego is up to. Notice the ego’s push to talk, notice what kinds of things your ego wants to say and, most importantly, notice what it is trying to get for itself by saying what it is saying. Is it trying to be right? Superior? Special? Is it trying to get attention? Is it trying to be The Helper or The Savior to others? Is it trying to enhance its position in the world or get something else it wants from others? The ego always has an agenda. What is your ego’s agenda? This is something for you to examine when you are with others.
Second, when you are with others, make a conscious effort to not speak or to speak very little. When you feel the push from your ego to speak, hold back. The more you hold back your egoic impulses, the easier this becomes. This takes practice, but with practice, you will eventually gain mastery of your ego.
The divine self is receptive. It listens, and that is really what others want from you. When you listen, love flows from you to others and then back again to you. The divine self is always kind. When you do speak, let your words be kind. Give this gift to yourself and others. Kindness is more honest than unkindness, because kindness comes from the truth—the deepest truth of all, that you are love and you are here to love. Thank you for being here. Thank you for being true to love. I am with you always.
Everyone knows what Home feels like. You know it from your simple, everyday experience of arriving home after you’ve been away, and you also know it from the deeper spiritual experience of being Home, or aligned with your divine nature. People love to be home because home feels a certain way. Whether you are arriving at your physical home or Home, or Presence, home feels good.
How would you describe the feeling of home? It’s a feeling of relaxation, isn’t it, a sense of, “Ahhh,” where you can finally relax and be as you are. When you arrive at your home, you can drop the persona, the public face, and the roles you play with others and just be, without all of that. And when you do that, you come Home to your spiritual self.
What’s left when you drop your persona and roles is nobody, an experience of pure being. When you are nobody, you are Home, spiritually speaking, and then you can feel at home even in the world.
When you are nobody, you become your best self. Isn’t it when you are the least focused on yourself that you are most happy and feel most at ease with yourself and others? That is one of the paradoxes of life: When you lose your self, you gain everything you have ever wanted: the happiness you long for and the ease of being that allows for a loving and generous heart. When you lose your self, you feel good and you make others feel good.
When you become nobody, what you lose is self-consciousness, self-centeredness, and selfishness. These words, with their emphasis on self, bely the truth: The self is what interferes with being at home in the world. When you are at home, in both respects of the word, you are not self-conscious, self-centered, or selfish. You just are.
Not everyone is able to just be who they are even when they are at home alone. They haven’t learned to be nobody. Even at home, they still wear their identities and roles. This is because their own mind maintains their identities and roles even when those identities and roles are no longer needed. They think the self into existence again and again in each new moment with thoughts about “I.”
When you are Home, spiritually speaking, this is what you stop doing, which allows you to be at home with yourself, at Home within yourself. When you are Home, with a capital “H,” you aren’t thinking about yourself, although you might be thinking about something you enjoy that doesn’t involve the re-imagining of the self, its reconstitution.
It is really only the thoughts about “I” that create the false self. Other thoughts are not a problem. They don’t necessarily take you away from your true nature. You can write or read or create, for instance, without a single thought about yourself interfering with that experience. When that is the case, you are deeply enjoying yourself precisely because the self isn’t there.
It is the “I” that keeps people from being at home with themselves and others. That’s interesting, isn’t it? Most people are in love with their thoughts about “I” and heap an enormous amount of attention on them. They are fascinated by them. “I” is their favorite subject, when they are alone or with others. And now, I am suggesting that these most beloved of all thoughts actually keep you from what you desire most. And that’s the truth.
It is important to see the truth. If you don’t, you won’t be motivated to experience life as nobody, and that would be a shame. Loving your thoughts about yourself keeps you from everything you truly want. The fact that you love your thoughts about yourself is part of the programming that keeps the ego in place. If you weren’t programmed to love your thoughts about yourself, they wouldn’t be nearly as compelling. The egocentricity of the ego keeps the ego in place. The ego is a self-sustaining system in so many ways—and literally self sustaining!
Who are you if you are not this “I”? What does it mean to be nobody? What is that like? Everyone knows what being nobody is like, because everyone spends some time every day being nobody, for instance, just before you drop off to sleep and just after you wake up, before ideas about you and your life kick in, and many other fleeting moments during your day.
Being nobody might not sound appealing, but being nobody feels good, like being home, like the best possible experience of home. Being nobody is a worthy goal. It is actually the goal of the spiritual path, although people don’t generally see it that way. Many spiritual people are still trying to be somebody: somebody spiritual, somebody who is awake or enlightened.
But that is the catch: You can’t be somebody and be your best self, your divine self. You can’t be somebody and be awakened or enlightened. You have to lose your self first by surrendering your thoughts about yourself and your life. That’s all, really. You are naturally good, naturally divine, but your thoughts about yourself interfere with knowing that and living as that.
On the spiritual path, there is a sacrifice to be made. What must be sacrificed is your personhood: the false self. You don’t get to be somebody and be awake in the moment, be in Presence. These are mutually exclusive states of consciousness. The price you must pay for being awake in any moment is the self that you have loved and hated and obsessed over. You don’t get to bring that self Home with you. You have to leave it at the doorstep. All of your thoughts about me and my life must go or be seen for what they are—as belonging to the illusory world of the false self, as not real, not who you are.
You can still enjoy being the character you are playing, while knowing yourself as that which is beyond all personhood, all identities, and all roles. Then, you can wear your roles and identities much more lightly, like costumes you put on briefly when you need to while in the world. But there is no need to wear them at home. In fact, to be Home, in the spiritual sense of the word, you cannot wear them.
When you slip your costume off, you know yourself as the spacious emptiness that created and expresses through everything. However, to be clear, you are not an individual expression of that spaciousness. Rather, you experience no individuality, no sense of existing as a self at all. You are nowhere to be found. This spaciousness is not contained in anything—not in you or even in an enlightened person—but pervades everything. It is without boundaries.
When you lose your “I”-ness, you don’t exist as a different, improved “I” somewhere. You don’t exist at all! To say, “I’m spaciousness” or “I’m nobody” is inaccurate, although we have no other way of speaking about these things except to use such dualistic language. There is no “I.” No individual self exists anywhere. All individual selves are a mirage. They are thought into an imaginary existence. You are here, you are alive, but there is no you, only consciousness animating a body and everything else: one thing, only one thing doing all of it.
When you lose your thoughts about “I,” you gain everything. You not only gain peace and happiness, but you experience yourself (excuse the language) as everywhere and in everything, so you literally gain everything. Your sense of self extends into all that you see and experience. The trees and flowers and ground and sky are all happening within you. You are not separate from any of it. It is all happening inside of “you.” That’s what happens when you become nobody: You also become everything. Is this enjoyable? Absolutely. It’s the experience that you, as a soul, have longed for throughout time, to return Home to your true nature.
I have talked about love as a homing device before, but this very important teaching deserves repeating. How you return Home is through love. Whenever you choose love over your “I” thoughts, you are rewarded with more of the same: love. When you give love, the good feeling you have inside tells you that you are going in the right direction, and that good feeling encourages you to continue in that direction. That feeling of love tells you when you are Home or on the road to Home and shows you how to get there. And that feeling of love shores you up on your journey.
Home is the experience of love, and that’s what every human being really wants. You have lots of programming that leads you astray, but love is also part of your programming. You are built to go toward love, and love does eventually win out over the ego.
The egoic programming is not more powerful than love. You are only under the ego’s spell until you have completed the lessons that the egoic programming was designed to create. The ego has been your teacher. Suffering has been your teacher. But once you are ready to be love, then Home is in sight and suffering can end. Love will keep pulling you Home until you arrive, and that will be sweet indeed. Thank you for being here. Thank you for opening to love. I am with you always.