“Loving in the Moment is filled with crucial ideas that help shed some much-needed light on the true nature of love and its higher possibilities.” —Guy Finley, author of The Essential Laws of Fearless Living

"My life has been blessed by this amazing book." —Valeria Kendall

"If you like Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie, you will love this book. Even if you don't know who those people are, you will probably love this book. It points out how our conditioning (ego) tends to mess up our relationships with others, and shows us how we can free ourselves from that conditioning to end up with happy, healthy relationships with ourselves and others... When I started reading, I started marking pages with meaningful quotes that I thought would be nice to share. Not far into the book, I realized that there were too many great quotes to mark them all, so I gave up. This book ranks in my top ten favorite books by spiritual teachers (or happiness teachers if you prefer that term). I'm sure you'll love it." —James Carland

“I have read a lot of spiritual books in my life, but this book is probably the most helpful book I have ever read. In this book, Gina Lake describes how our conditioning runs our relationships and ultimately makes us unhappy and resentful in them. The detail and clarity with which she describes the common dynamic in relationships can help anyone to notice their tendencies that create suffering, and in-turn, help anyone to begin to act more from essence or presence rather than from conditioning. I honestly give this book the highest recommendation I could possibly give to a book. Regardless of whether you think your romantic relationship is going wonderfully well or filled with suffering, regardless of whether you are in a romantic relationship or not, this book can help you to experience more peace and love in all of your different types of relationships in life.”—Noah

"Gina Lake's books are always inspiring and helpful to read. Loving in the Moment teaches you that it is the ego's perception that makes you unhappy, not your partner, friends, enemies, etc. This is great news to hear. Because you can now relax, let go and be happy now, not when you have the right partner. Through the exercises and passages in this book, you will learn to strip yourself of the ego's conditioning and be Essence, which is where happiness lies. Once this happens, all of your relationships will improve, not just with your significant other (or your search for one), but also with everyone else. I cannot recommend Gina Lake's work enough. This and her book Radical Happiness should be required reading for everyone." —Chris Heath

"I strongly recommend this essential reading for those whose relationships (or lack thereof) are less than idyllic. Without love, and the appropriate expression of it, of what value is our journey on this earthly plane? Eternal thanks goes to Gina and the miracle her inspired writing has bestowed in our lives." —Raymond Grenier

"This is by far the best book on conscious relationship written to date. Easy, short, and to-the-point, this amazing book transmits an energy while helping you get back in touch with your Essence. As a relationship coach and workshop facilitator, I thought there weren't any books that had new or better information. I was wrong. This one is full of practical understandings that help you see how your conditioning is often running the show, not Who You Really Are. Whether with a partner or attracting your next relationship, this book will assist you immensely in deepening your experience of Self, coming back to your center, and making your relationship a win-win. This book transmits the wisdom that you can apply in this very moment to every relationship in your life, not just romantic ones!" —Dr. Talia Miller, relationship coach and workshop leader

"Impeccable. If after all the fighting and struggle and confusion, you are ready to hear and drink in the simple truth about living, loving, relating. This is more than a book; it is a treasure. How radiantly clear and simple it is to hear when one is ready. And if you are drawn here, you are. This book is for those who are ready to get IT, to hear out of the silence the music that we all are." —Michael N. Peil

“When you have read enough of the theory, sit down, relax and open this book. You won't be disappointed! Gina offers practical, down to earth insights on relationships that can propel you to experiencing inner-Essence through LOVE. A beautiful book that does away with mental gymnastics, becomes your friend, and offers you the insightful guidance that you so much deserve and have looked so hard for. I read this book over a two month time span–savoring every word. A definite must read!” —Jerry Chess

“Wow - VERY informative and understandable. A must read for anyone who is in a relationship whether romantic or not—which means every human being! This book truly hit home with me and really helped me understand not only my own conditioning and filters, but also those I am in relationships with, like my mother. It has helped me address my own issues and forgive others theirs. I also really appreciate the way Gina Lake writes. I've bought a few of her books now and have to say that I am kinder, more patient, and slowly but surely evolving for the better!” —Rozamak

“Gina Lake is simply an incredible author. Loving in the Moment is a must have for anyone interested in developing deeper, authentic relations with their partner, friend, co-workers, family, etc. Her work is truly priceless, timeless wisdom that brings awareness and clarity to the many challenges and 'solutions' in relationships with oneself and with others. All of Gina's books are so clear, applicable, and contain words that point to such freedom.” —Carole Griggs

"Why is it that relationships can often be difficult, hurtful, or unfulfilling? How can conflicts be resolved before they arise? How can we overcome these obstacles in order to find true happiness in a partner? Gina Lake's Loving in the Moment answers these questions with wisdom that is both simple and timeless. Once we can understand ourselves to the depths of our very being, all is revealed. Through this book, the reader explores the impact of egoic behavior on relationships and is offered practical advice on how to overcome the obstacles to happiness by abiding as the Essence of who you really are and experiencing true love. The best part is that there is no relationship problem that isn't addressed through this solution! If you enjoy books by Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, and others in the same vein, you will enjoy this book". —Jason Sawicki

"Gina Lake has written a practical and deeply truthful book to help readers unravel the complexities of relationship. Her easy, gentle guidelines and clearly explained mechanisms of interaction—how we each react through our conditioning instead of what's true—lead to fireworks of insight and intuition, with rewards of ease and clarity and closeness with our loved ones. Gina is able to bring these important concepts to readers in a simple format. There is a richness of value, a gateway to better-than-you-could-have-imagined relationships in this wonderful book." —T. J. Heiler

“This book is for anyone who has problems in relationships and anyone who wants to be in a relationship and wants to know how to make it work. This book is essentially a prescription for happiness in relationships and, incidentally, happiness outside of relationships too. It is hands down the best book I have ever read on relationships. It  really helped me understand myself and why my previous relationships didn't work. I understand how I was causing a lot of the problems by my own ignorance, and I am confident that I will approach my next relationship with new skills and a new understanding of love, tolerance, acceptance, and harmony. This book dispelled all my 'little girl' unrealistic, romantic fantasies and helped me understand what a true, healthy love relationship should look like. Highly recommended!” —Shari Blake

"This book has been my evening reading meditation. I have received these reflections of the One like Flashlights in the darkness of the night, and they have reached the depth of my soul. These words sound so true. It's nurturing me and helping me reconnect with the Verticality. The Beloved is within." —Parimal Danielle Tonossi

“Gina Lake has a way of teaching that is so clear and concise. This is a very important book to anyone interested in having ‘real’ relationships with another (parent, children, sibling, friend, lover, etc.). Chapter by chapter, Gina illustrates how our conditioning creates anything but a loving, accepting relationship. Operating from our egos much of the time, our main focus is ‘me’ and what I want, how I want it, and the finger pointing of how you are not giving that to me. I have used The Work by Byron Katie and A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle with clients and both are tremendously important tools. That said, Gina Lake's book brings similar tools and applies them to the stories we have about love and relationships. It truly helped me see a lot of my conditioning and has been a great conversation starter with my loved ones.” —Shelly Holland

"... Few Buddhist or Advaita Vedanta writers go where Gina Lake treads, and her clear-eyed descriptions of ego's tricks disguised as personality illuminated many questions about self, other, and behavior that I have had for years. She even gives elevated techniques to deal with your spouse's messy habits!... It is written from the perspective of higher consciousness, slightly impersonal, though never patronizing. Given the depth of the material, those readers who have graduated from self-help books just might find themselves seamlessly entering into the state of consciousness out of which these high teachings arose. As such, it's a book you won't want to rush through—and one you may return to year after year."—Pamela Bloom, author of The Power of Compassion

“Many of us feel that love chooses us or we just magically fall in love. Then we go on to love happily ever after without having to do any work and we are both always happy and giddy with love. Yikes! I have been watching too many old romantic movies... because that is just not how it is. Once again, Gina shares with us nail-on-the-head advice for how to create and maintain true, deep loving relationships with our spouses, partners, friends and yes, ourselves. Great book for anyone in any type of relationship... yep, that would be everyone!”—Kathy Vitcak

"Gina Lake is my new favorite author. She writes in a clear, simple style with helpful exercises and suggestions that are easy to incorporate into everyday life. In this book, Gina pulled the curtain on so many of my mistaken beliefs about relationships... I highly recommend it for anyone who wants to grow spiritually through the powerful vehicle of relationships" —Laura Katleman Prue

"With gentle encouragement, wise guidance, and practical direction, Loving in the Moment is an enormously helpful resource on how to love truly from the undivided heart. With both simplicity and depth, Gina Lake beautifully illustrates the myriad of ways in which we choose to allow habitual patterns of human conditioning to take hold in our intimate relationships, which result, as so many of us know all too well, in unnecessary suffering and discontent in daily life. Thankfully, for those of us ready and willing to open to new possibilities, this lovely book provides the steps back to discovering, or recovering, a way to love that is expansive and accepting, a true manifestation of the love we, in Essence, already are."  —Karen Waldman, M.S.W.

“All you ever wanted to know about relationships and true love without expecting to find it written. Gina manages it in this book, in a very clear, simple, practical, and luminous way. Don't be mistaken, it is a book about who we really are and how to live it, or as Gina puts it: how to align ourselves with ‘Essence.’ A must!” —Anantala

"As many of us attempt to find true love in relationships, Gina guides us beyond our conditioned ideas of love to true love. She clearly points to the ideas that many of us believe are true, only to discover they’re nothing but illusions that keep us from experiencing true love. Not only does Gina explain how our conditioning keeps us stuck, but shines the light on the path out of seeking and into the obvious. Written with clarity and poise, this book needs to be on the bookshelf of both the spiritually oriented and those who seek more meaning and depth in relationships.” —Andrew Shultz

"Egos don't love. They want something! Gina Lake really showed me, in this book, how to tell the difference! Most of my relationships in the past had been just conditioning dragging me through one disaster after another. This book is a masterpiece in how to meet relationship from your essence, not your conditioning. Most relationship books are about how to manipulate others through communication. This one is about authenticity in relationship and how to achieve it. It is not about getting what you want, but about experiencing the true nature of relationship. If you are someone who wants to learn how to 'hook' the right partner, this book is not for you. If you are someone who wants to tap into the Love that you are more deeply, and bring that into relationship, this book IS for you."—Lisa Holliday Lee

"Loving in the Moment offers simple yet profound advice for how we can transform our relationships by using the Love that is always available in us. Loving in the Moment shows how to gently step back from our self-serving intentions, thoughts, feelings, and actions and instead take actions when we are grounded in Divine Essence. This courageous way to live life, by literally loving it, has the power to remove life-long obstacles that keep us living in fear, anger, despair, and dissatisfaction. As a psychologist of twenty years, I wouldn't hesitate to recommend this to my clients." —Robert Hanna

"Gina Lake's advice is a true spiritual awakening of self discovery... No matter if you are single or married, there is something for everyone in Loving in the Moment: Moving from Ego to Essence in Relationships. With Gina Lake's advice, you have taken the first step needed to find true and lasting love. It provides an enlightening means to discover what you heart desires." —Suzie Housley, Midwest Book Reviewer

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